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The tools and how to use them

This topic is on the importance of supporting the person who was harmed, and has tools to think about what support best meets their needs.  Remember, the best way for you to support them might be to focus on ending and taking responsibility for your violence (see How do you take accountability).

What does the person who was harmed need? Checklist has types of support they might want or need.  It includes things that they might feel unable or afraid to ask for.  You may be able to offer some of these.

There are different ways the person you hurt might be involved in the intervention, Participation of the person who was harmed in an intervention chart shows some of these. 

 

Tools and examples

Real story: Getting support from my co-workers

Other sections that can help

Tools to help you stop violence and take responsibility for the harm you’ve caused are in How do you take accountability.

Tools to understand the harm experienced by the person who was hurt are in What is going on.

Who can help can be used to find the right people to support the person who was harmed.  Tools to co-ordinate their support with the rest of the intervention are in How do you work together.

Setting goals for supporting the person you hurt are in What do you want.  Tools to think about safety as a form of support are in How do you stay safe.