If you haven’t already, check for Signs of immediate danger. This might affect what you do next.
This topic has long tools to help take accountability, some of them may be useful to you. Staircase of change talks more about accountability as a process. You can look at your own situation and adapt the steps to your goals.
Two tools are for people who were harmed. Level of participation for people who were harmed chart helps think about how you want to be involved in a process of taking accountability. It can help you think about how you might stay involved and in the loop. Self-reflection and guiding questions for people who were harmed and allies has tools to think through your involvement in the accountability process.
There are also tools for allies and the person who hurt you, which you might want to look at. Self-reflection and practice for allies Practice Questions has questions and statements to guide through what can be a hard process. Breaking through defensiveness Guiding Questions for the person doing harm and Preparing for direct communication, Affirmations and Guided Questions for the person doing harm give support to get beyond defensiveness.
Bay Area Transformative Justice have a tool for thinking about who can support people to take accountability. Their Pods and pod mapping worksheet describes a simple way to think about and build support for even the hardest times.
Tools and examples
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