You have read the explanation of the four phases of the model, and the 8 steps within each phase. You have checked that the values of this model align with yours. You are ready to look at the tools to mix and match.
Mixing and matching the tools
Each tool can fit in to different parts of your intervention. Some are for individuals, some are for groups, some take longer than others. They can help you to think about all the things you need to think about—what happened, being safe, who can help, what you and your group want, what you need, how to encourage accountability, how to work with others and how to stay on track. If it helps to treat them as steps in a process, use them that way. If some tools or topics aren’t relevant to you, skip them. If you only need one or two tools to help with a specific problem or question, focus on them.
For example, if you came to this website because you are looking for help, a good place to start might be Who can help. If you aren’t sure whether what’s happening is abuse, it might help to start with What is going on. If you know what’s happening but you don’t know what you want to do about it, a good place to start might be What do you want or What support do you want. If you want help thinking about safety, start with How do you stay safe.
This section contains a lot of information and resources—don’t get overwhelmed. Start by focusing on what is most urgent and needed. You might need to use other tools later to fill in gaps. You may decide to look at everything, because something might help you think differently about what is possible.
The questions are slightly different at each phase of thinking about them. This overview might help you work out where to start.
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