You have read the explanation of the four phases of the model, and the 8 topics. You have checked that the values of this model match with yours. You are ready to look at the tools to mix and match.
Mixing and matching the tools
Each tool can fit in to different parts of your intervention. Some are for individuals, some are for groups, some take longer than others. They can help you to think about all the things you need to think about—what happened, being safe, who can help, what the group wants, what the person you harmed needs, how to take accountability, how to work with others and how to stay on track. If it helps to treat them as steps in a process, use them that way. If some tools or topics aren’t relevant to you, skip them. If you only need one or two tools to help with a specific problem or question, focus on them.
You may not be included in all parts of an intervention—this may be for safety or because the person you harmed or the group you are working with don’t want you involved in everything. Taking accountability and changing your behaviour is hard work, it may take up more of your time and energy than you expect, and you may need to focus on that. If there are parts of the intervention you want to be part of, be clear with the group about what they are and why.
This section contains a lot of information and resources—don’t get overwhelmed. Start by focusing on what is most urgent and needed. You might need to use other tools later to fill in gaps. You may decide to look at everything, because something might help you think differently about what is possible.
The most important sections for you to read are Basics, and How do you take accountability. Doing something about your violence can be hard. Reading other sections may help you through the process.
The questions are slightly different at each phase of thinking about them. This overview might help you work out where to start.